How Nudity Improved My Sexual Health

We’ve all read the stories on various websites and blogs that say “being naked is good for you” or “nudity improves your body confidence”. While this is true, we can’t forget about how nudity can improve your sexual health too, and, for me, it has helped increase my libido as well. There’s nothing more empowering than feeling confident in your body, feeling desired, and having your desire for someone improve by simply taking your clothes off as much as possible.

When I am naked my sense of touch and sight seem to be in a more heightened state. It’s like I have been set free and made aware that I can actually sense the touches on my my body more, and I am more aware of myself and my surroundings. I feel the slight breeze over my skin as I walk, the warm morning sun when I let the dog out, I see my shadowy image reflected around me, and I catch myself looking back at my body in the mirror. I observe pretty much everything about me and it feels great. I look in the mirror each morning and tell myself I am beautiful and confident, regardless of what anyone else thinks of me. At the end of the day my personal opinion about me is the only one that matters and the only one I listen to. Don’t listen to the haters. You’re beautiful too.

It’s like I have been set free and made aware that I can actually sense the touches on my my body more…

How Did It Start?

When we are clothed for most of our day and lives we start to lose that sense of self. The knowledge of who we really are and we pretend to be someone we are not by keeping up with the latest fashion trends, that new diet GUARANTEED to make you thinner and healthier, or the risque dress Tiffany wore to the whole office meeting. We begin to be trained by the dysfunction we call modern society to judge those around us and to judge ourselves based on what others around us are doing. How many times have you scrolled through Facebook or Instagram and said “I wish I looked that good in that outfit”, or “I don’t have the body shape to wear something like that”. What we don’t realize is were being manipulated to devalue our self-worth and destroy our levels of self-esteem. To be honest, it’s quite sickening. Here’s a news flash…the majority of real people don’t look like the models or the braggers trying to artificially inflate their level of self worth.

Everyone falls into this trap. How can we not? We are bombarded with advertisements telling us what we need before we know we need them. Hell, I’ve fallen into it and still get that bug in my ear “buy me, you’ll feel better about yourself”. It’s hard to ignore. Don’t get me wrong, I do like nice things, but the downside is the outfit or item you bought can only be worn/used so much, and then it wears out or goes out of style and you need a new one. The things that will never go out of style is you. Your body. Your mind. Your inner soul. Start embracing you and let go of the rest of the bullshit. Although I’ve been a naturist for a long time, it took me years to realize my self worth is in me and not what someone else wanted me to be (i.e. social media, advertisements, FAMILY!)

What Did I do?

…let go of the awful oppression of judgement.

Short answer is I started embracing me. Sound selfish? Good, it should be selfish. No one will ever take care of you as good as you’re going to take care of you. The first thing I started doing is looking at myself naked, accepting how my body has changed over the years, and focusing on what I liked about me. I stopped the perpetual circle of judgement by NOT judging myself. This is key because you cannot let go of judging others until you let go of judging yourself.

Once I was able to let go of that judgement I completely felt my spirit rise. It’s almost as if someone had removed a terrible burden from me. It was a taste of…freedom. It helped me to realize the cost of what we and society have been holding over our heads…our inability to think for ourselves and just go with the flow of what is expected of us. I urge you to let go and find your true self. Think for yourself and not what others want you to think. Be free.

Now that you have embraced you and let go of the awful oppression of judgement, it’s time we start rebuilding…YOU.

Rebuilding…YOU

First, if you’re not already naked, then you need to take off your clothes. If you are not somewhere that you can or feel comfortable taking your clothes off (if you’re in public or you’re not home alone), then wait until you have that chance. The key is to be relaxed enough to do it. If you are at a place where you can, then go ahead, I’ll wait. No where to be. (whistles awkwardly and picks at fingernails). Done? Good. You can stop covering yourself now because we want to embrace YOU.

I am beautiful no matter what, but I am more beautiful when I am naked.

The key for me to build my confidence and be content with my body was to basically see my naked body as much as I could. I loved the feeling being naked brought me, but I could have gone all day without a mirror. We are our own worst critic and tend to focus on all of our imperfections, but when we learn to embrace our imperfections we truly are content and free.

The next thing for you to do is go to a mirror…preferably a full length mirror so you can completely see yourself. Now I want you to say “I am beautiful no matter what, but I am more beautiful when I am naked.” You can also say something like “I love how healthy my skin looks”, or if you have stretch marks from babies say “My tiger stripes show just how badass I am.” They key is to compliment yourself while naked. Do it every time you walk past a mirror, see your reflection, or while you’re laying on the couch looking down your beautiful self.

I know everyone will not jump in feet first, and that is ok. My primary focus is to help you feel better about yourself, especially while naked. If you feel better, more confident, and content with who you are, then others will see that and begin to feed off your energy. The best part is it can help you feel better as a sexual partner to your significant other.

Improved Sexuality

I’ve read numerous “studies” (these are internet based articles with professional references) that explain how being naked is good for your physically, emotionally, and mentally. I’ve experienced this and actually feel more confident inserting comments about nudity, skinny dipping, and other activities in the right conversations. What’s not talked about much, at least on some naturist blogs and high profile sites, is the sexual improvements of being naked. DO NOT let this discussion lead you to believe nudity=sex. It’s like saying a beer=alcoholism.

Sex is the glue that holds a relationship together.

What I want you to understand is that being naked more often improves your self image. When you feel better about yourself and your image, then you are more likely to not focus on your insecurities. This can free up your mind, lower your anxiety, and help improve your overall sexual drive. This is very important for relationships to survive, because without a healthy sexual relationship with your partner, then one or both of you may experience…let’s say other ‘interests’. Like I’ve always said to people/couples struggling: You may be attracted to someone and fall in love with them, but sex is the glue that holds a relationship together. Sex brings you closer together as a couple, and for that block of time that you engage in sex, you become one with each other and allow that bond to grow.

Better Sex Drive

Personally, over the years I have noticed an improvement in my sex drive, and I attribute a large part of that to increasing the amount of time I’m naked, a few self affirmations, and slowly building my confidence up enough to make a measurable difference. This didn’t happen over night and I continue to improve myself everyday. You want to get to a point where you and your partners sex ‘bucket’ is always full. This will be different with each couple, but you will have to determine together how much is enough for each of you.

If your partner is suffering from a low self-esteem, insecurities, or some other condition that inhibits their ability to feel ‘confident’ and ‘sexy’, then maybe encourage them to spend time naked. Compliment them, admire them, voice your favorite body part, etc… The best bet is for both of you to be naked together, and you can grow as one. However, if your partner is unwilling to participate, then you should still do what you can to improve yourself, mentally, emotionally, and sexually. You may discover your example will eventually be followed.

Wrapping Up

They important concepts I want you to walk away with are these:

• This process could take a long time. It’s taken me years.
• Avoid social media when you don’t need to be on it. Don’t mindlessly scroll through and looking at everyone’s feed. It’s quite depressing.
• Be naked as much as much as you can. Even if it’s only in bathroom or bedroom while getting ready. Delay getting dressed.
• Compliment yourself often, especially while naked.
• Release your inhibitors and anxiety so you can enjoy sex.

As far as I know humans and dolphins are the only two mammals who enjoy having sex, and we should do everything we can to make sure we keep our sexual health at the top of it’s game. Trust me, you’ll be glad you did, and you may even bring someone along with you.

Note: Header image provided by lesmouches